I was doing some R & R surfing before studying and came across this very interesting webby.

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/

It was created by the University of Columbia in US, and handle all sorts of questions on sexuality, general health and mental health, I did't have time to explore the site comprehensively, but what I found was nonetheless interesting.

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Dear Alice,

How do you define a virgin? I have never had any sexual intercourse. However, I live in with my girl friend and we often have "intimate actions" and oral sex. Are we still considered virgins?

Sign me,
Cherry picker

Dear Cherry picker,

A virgin is someone who hasn't had sexual intercourse. However, the idea of virginity is an old one. People in ancient Greece and Rome used the term virgin to refer to a woman (or a goddess) who was autonomous, on her own, not owned by any man. It was only later that it came to apply solely to sexual virginity. When the meaning changed, the implication was that remaining a virgin until marriage guaranteed that a woman would uphold the family honor by passing from father to husband like unspoiled goods. Because at that point there was no dependable birth control, it also guaranteed that babies would be born only to married couples.

In your case, doing "everything but" having intercourse and yet feeling confused is normal. You are technically virgins, but you and your girlfriend are as emotionally and physically involved as you would be were you having intercourse, especially true since you're living together. Spend some time thinking about these questions: What does your virginity mean to you? To your girlfriend? Is the technicality or terminology important? For what reasons?
Alice thinks that as long as your relationship is respectful, mutual, safe, and fulfilling, your technical "virginity" is not that important. If you both do decide to have intercourse while still at Columbia, and need information on birth control and basic sexuality guidance, feel free to make an appointment at Primary Care Medical Services (4-2284) to talk with a nurse practitioner.

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I can't help but wonder what LSC will say if she read this. Sure nag long long about asian cultures and what not.

Though I'm not a zealous advocate for pre-marital sex, I kinda admire the westerners ability to look at such questions with an incredibly open mind.

And let's not be too quick to jump at our stereotype and say "But they are western, and therefore are typically more 随便!!"

If they really are 随便, then why would anyone bother to ask about decency and appropriate-ness of these sexual concerns? They would have just bonked each other like rabbits!

And please do not forget we will always have our unwilling porn star in NYP to remind the nation that Singaporeans can and will fuck one another if given the chance to! (Pardon the choice of words, I just can't find something more vulgar.)

Carry on and read this too if you are really interested in looking at more perspectives...

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/9117931/

Adios

Left, I'm wrong. Right, I'm wrong again. But, I feel so wronged...

Kj and Kl finally returned from their Seattle trip.

Today is also the day that they returned back to NTU.

I saw them in the free access lab today in the afternoons and went over to greet them, but I had a tutor chasing behind me for a video that was 2 weeks overdue.

Having printed my notes that I had wanted to read while working on my videos, I rushed off to work, already thinking about dinner.

Having had an uneventful studying afternoon (I was doing my video admin work all the time.) I called up to ask about dinner. Knowing that I'm gonna be paid handsomely for the work I've done this semester, I thought I could afford to treat my friends to something nice as a way of saying, "Welcome back!"

But well, family comes first, as it is meant to be, as it has always been. And me?

Late at night, I was STILL working through the paper work that never seems to finish when the call got through, which explains why I sounded so stoned and disinterested.

And so it came to be that I am callous.

I don't understand. I really don't.

Am I upset? Pissed? Nah.

Just sad. Make that very sad. And it hurts.

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Haha, I study until I feeling very boh liao. So come here and write some rubbish.

First of all, I'll like to welcome aboad the lastest reader of this blog page. Welcome Joy!

That leaves 2 more slots for whoever chances upon this page.

Gee...

Also, I made it so that all comments posted on my blog will be kept hidden, so that only the person who posted the comment and I can read it. Since this blog is kept so secret, I guess it's only right I protect everyone's rights too!

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Feeling very wierd these days, and it's starting to affect my mood to study.

I hope very much though, that it's only because OB is really a very boring subject to read... ...

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I've set a new target for this semester's exams.

The only subject I'm nterested in is really FM and ACC, and I think stats (a little).

I hope I can do well for the 3 sub, then I wouldn't really care what happens to my OB. Haha.

I was doing my calculations yesterday. And I realised that by the end of May, I would have saved up twice the amount of money that I projected I will. Wow. At this rate, I probably can afford to go GIP in yr 2 sem 2 with minimal loan, or I can go in Yr 3 sem 1 with no loan at all.

And I feel damn proud that that I'm paying for all this out of my own pocket! 3 cheers!

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The other day, I went up to the roof (level 2) to see what the lights are all about.

And true to my prediction, it really was the port.

With a little help (illumination) from the sun, I was able to see many things that I couldn't during that night. I say the container loaders, the big cranes, I even saw a ship!

But somehow, it just didn't FEEL as beautiful as it was in the night. Even though as we could see was lights, and somemore they're all the same color! Haha.

Maybe it was the cool breeze of the night, maybe it was the sense of relieve from work, maybe it was the space left available to the imagination? Maybe. =)

"Perhaps the most important revelation in life is to recognize your own worth." -- Taro Gold